Valentine’s Day is so overrated……..
It’s about that time again people. That time when the streets are painted in red, hearts are filled with ‘love’ and bank accounts are emptied. It’s about that time when your supposed significant other is all of a sudden nowhere to be seen. It’s Valentine’s Day boys and girls, hurray!
In the spirit of full disclosure, I’m not much of Valentine’s Day fan. Please don’t get me wrong; I enjoy the adulation from my significant other on that day. I enjoy smelling the roses, opening my boxes of chocolates and oohing and ahhing as I peruse my cards, but something about that day just feels off.
If I’m truly honest, I think the novelty wore off for me in high school when I believe I was about 15 years old after my crush at the time gave away the gifts I had given him. Being the butt of all the jokes for the entire term wasn’t exactly my idea of fun.
Coupled with the fact that it’s all a big financial holiday; the same thing with Christmas. We are obliged to go buy gifts for our loved ones; we are supposed to get the most romantic gift ever; we are supposed to give out our hard earned pesos to restaurants and hotels to make the night ‘epic’; the expectation to pop the question is heightened to fever pitch proportions.
Or wait for this one, you spend hours, weeks and even months planning the most romantic evening with your guy. You get the Japanese cherry blossom or vanilla scented candles ready, the 100 dollars gift card from Victoria Secrets you got for Christmas would surely be handy, and your mom or babysitter has agreed to watch the babies (at a cost of course) and finally the house to yourselves again just like in the early days. Being that it’s a weekday and you have decided to just exchange gifts, have dinner and go to bed.
However, by the time you make your way into the bedroom, with a walk that would put Naomi Campbell to shame, dressed in the most provocative teddy Victoria Secret can offer and with skin glistening with vanilla body oil; you get a shocker!
You are greeted with the sound of snoring emanating from your baby daddy. In his sleep, he is having dreams about working on his new Triumph motorcycle or the new Xbox so waking him is a foregone conclusion. The thought of throwing a bowl of cold water on him or hitting him with a pillow filled with pebbles crosses your mind but you remember that you’re a child of God now so you go off to bed, but hey it’s Val’s day!
I guess what I am trying to say here is, why does it take a ‘special’ day for us to show our love and affection to our significant others? Can’t we do that every day or when we feel like it? Why stress ourselves on end trying to come up with the most jaw-dropping gift? And why for the life of me, do we as females start looking for dates just because we don’t want to be alone on Valentine’s Day?
Look, if you find yourself single by the 1st of February, take it from one who knows, Prince Charming aka Tom Brady or Idris Elba isn’t going to come knocking on your door roses in tow. Why not treat yourself to a spa day, a bunch of roses and a trip to Sephora. Your boo is on his way trust me, just give it time. And to those with significant others, don’t kill yourself on a quest to either impress your partner or try to buy his or affections with gifts and troves.
Don’t let a day go by without sharing with the ones you care about just how much they mean to you, either through words or gifts. Don’t sit with hand on your jaw twiddling your fingers and waiting for Saint Valentine’s Day to make your loved one(s) feel special.